The Age Issue

The ageing process of a human being starts from the moment they are born and not when they turn 30 or 40 or 50 and so on.

Ageing is a natural process that is happening to every person on our planet, no matter where they were born or where they live, how thin or fat they are, how educated or uneducated they are and certainly it doesn´t matter how much money or power a person has, they will also age.

For me personally age has never been an issue because I seem to have an inability to see someone´s approximate age . Of course I can see the difference between a child, a teenager and an adult. But it stops there. Once someone is fully grown I can no longer “see” how old they could be.

When I first meet a person I kind of see that they are young or old, but after a little bit I stop seeing age or colour or anything else and start seeing the person. Once I see the person I see nothing else.

Today I would really like to shout out loud: see the person not the age!

It has bothered me for a very long time that people over the age of 40 find it almost impossible to get a new job. Employers tend to hire young people because they can pay them less money or so that their copany´s  staff list looks attractive!

In my case I would much rather hire a mixture of ages. Those with experience in the job and in life. And young people too, to bring a completely different way of seeing things. Experience and knowledge sees things in one clear solid way, inexperience and youth can complement taking risks with new products or advertising campaigns, or branching out into new areas of business.

A combination of the 2 brings perfect balance for business growth, a lively working environment and a powerful team.

I experienced it myself in my last business where my employees age range went from 18 to 60 years old. We were a very successful team that had a lot of fun and laughter together. We supported each other and picked up where one of us couldn´t keep going or lacked the knowledge.

But I also once lived in a country where younger persons never mixed with people outside their age circle. I had a friend once who at age 24 had never held a baby in her arms nor spent any time in the company of anyone over the age of 50, her grandparents had passed away when she was a child.

Having travelled and lived in a few countries, I have encountered different attitudes to age and the aging process. From the very horrible attitude that old people have no place in our world any more to the one in my culture, where old people are respected and valued and treated as teachers of the younger generations, wisdom givers and time givers.

I found that as I was growing up (or ageing) I spent a lot of time with older people, in fact my best friends were always older or much older than me.  I was and I still am, full of respect and admiration for people who are older than me. Respecting people who are older than myself it one of the things that my parents taught me from an early age and I shall be for ever thankful for it.

As I grew up I started to develop a huge amount of patience with elderly people and to have fun with them, in their company. Contrary to what some people believe elderly people haven´t stopped having feelings or emotions or fun. Elderly people haven´t stopped having dreams or goals that they still want to achieve in their lives.

Elderly people also fall in love. Yes, they do! and there are also elderly people who get married at 70!

They also have fun together or with younger people, and they get away with doing things that nobody would believe that they did it because of the whole pre conceived ideas about elderly people.

In one of the places I worked I observed an elderly lady pressing every single button on the elevator!!! She turned around and had a look on my face that I have only seen in children who know they have done mischief! When she saw me, she smiled sweetly at me and I bit my bottom lip as the elevator stopped on every floor!

Living in Germany I have met some incredible older people. I met a couple that at age 77 and 72, ride their bicycles for 16 kilometers every Sunday to go to church and back home. They rarely use their car and choose to ride their bikes no matter where they go.

I also met someone who at the age of 70 received a new honours degree having made the decision a few years before to go back to university and study.

And have you heard of the amazing 83-year-old fashion model who looks incredible? China Machado.

Well, I personally refuse to spend the rest of my life being an age!

What about you? Do you allow age to limit your expectations, dreams and goals in life? It is never too late to pursue those dreams.

Resolve to start today to find a way to get that degree you always wanted, or learn to drive a motorbike or go walk the wall of China. Achieve your ideal weight, choose a completely new style for yourself and transform your life into the life you always wanted.

Make a list of all those things you always wanted to do and have not yet achieved. Do your research into how to achieve it, take your time, plan carefully how you can do it and then … Go for it!!!

Mohammed and Beatriz

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Happy Wife = Happy Life

Wives who are happy blossom. They look more beautiful every day. They apply themselves to everything they do and try to do it right. They make their houses into welcoming homes.

A woman has the ability to affect the atmosphere of  any room with her mood. A happy and radiant wife will turn a home into a little bit of heaven. An unhappy wife will bring a sad and heavy feeling into the home and every day life.

Most men know what makes their wives happy and what makes them truly unhappy.

Men who truly love their wives strive to do everything they can to not do anything that makes their wives unhappy. Of course we are all human and do make mistakes, but the important thing is not to keep on making the same mistakes. If something that you did made your wife unhappy and made her cry, don´t do it again!

Obvious! but why is it that some people keep on making the same mistakes over and over again until their relationships fail?

Once a relationship has truly failed there is no way back. Once the love dies it is the end.

But before you get to that point it is time to wake up and take care of your wife and your relationship.

Take a little bit of time everyday to get to know your wife all over again. Bring romance into your relationship and lavish your wife with your love. Encourage her, praise her for her beauty and what she does right, motivate her to keep growing as a person and allow her the freedom to be herself.

Always focus on the positives and if there are negatives find a way to talk about it in a calm way, finding together a solution to the situation.
When you speak with your wife give her your full attention and! do actually give her your attention and time, tomorrow it might be too late. Time goes by way too quick and we don´t see it.
Value your wife and do not take her for granted.
Time together should be a high priority, but not just time together, a time when you leave all else aside and focus on your wife and fall in love with her all over again. Movies tell the stories of those falling in love but never the “happy ever after” as a happy ever after. Believe me! It is possible and real to fall in love all over again every day with your own wife!!!

From one happy husband to many!

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A heart full of love

Some people have no love in their lives. They spend their time asking themselves when will they find a person to fall in love with and get married. Or why do my parents or family or friends not love me?

When it comes to love relationships, it is easy to find just a person but it is not easy to find the right person, the person that will love you as you are unconditionally, who can understand you and walk through this life with you.

I believe personally that God has a plan for our lives and in this plan He includes the right person for each one of us. The aim is to meet this person and to have the ability to recognise them.

Don´t think that every person is happy, in fact some appear to be happy but are not, every home has it´s own story.

Traditions, experiences, different backgrounds and different cultures all contribute to who we are and our expectations of love and life.

Relationships can be complicated and difficult but a successful relationship depends on each person making the decision EVERY DAY to choose the other one. Not to give up on the relationship, on the person they love or on themselves.

True love is when we know everything there is to know about the other person and we still love them.

But love can also fade away. Specially if we do not learn to mould ourselves into the relationship  and consider the needs of the other person. Making a point of taking the focus of ourselves only and focusing on the other person too, helps us to build a successful relationship. That doesn´t just apply to love but also to friendships and family relationships.

To only pursue what we want without thinking about the happiness of the other person leads to failure in any relationship.

Having shared goals and dreams, as well as taking time to build good memories, makes relationships stronger.

Of course there are set backs and hard times, everyone makes mistakes. The important thing is to learn from those mistakes and not make the same mistakes again. Knowingly doing something that hurts the other person and causes damage to the relationship is not going to contribute to success.

Investing time in your relationship and in considering if what you are doing is helping your relationship stay strong or not, is the key to opening the door to success. A heart full of love is not enough if you don´t put time and effort into your relationship.

Invest time on focusing on the person you love, studying them again, learning about them like if you saw them for the first time and see the positive changes in them, in you and in your relationship.

Wishing a successful relationship and a heart full of love!

Beatriz & Mohammed

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