The Age Issue

The ageing process of a human being starts from the moment they are born and not when they turn 30 or 40 or 50 and so on.

Ageing is a natural process that is happening to every person on our planet, no matter where they were born or where they live, how thin or fat they are, how educated or uneducated they are and certainly it doesn´t matter how much money or power a person has, they will also age.

For me personally age has never been an issue because I seem to have an inability to see someone´s approximate age . Of course I can see the difference between a child, a teenager and an adult. But it stops there. Once someone is fully grown I can no longer “see” how old they could be.

When I first meet a person I kind of see that they are young or old, but after a little bit I stop seeing age or colour or anything else and start seeing the person. Once I see the person I see nothing else.

Today I would really like to shout out loud: see the person not the age!

It has bothered me for a very long time that people over the age of 40 find it almost impossible to get a new job. Employers tend to hire young people because they can pay them less money or so that their copany´s  staff list looks attractive!

In my case I would much rather hire a mixture of ages. Those with experience in the job and in life. And young people too, to bring a completely different way of seeing things. Experience and knowledge sees things in one clear solid way, inexperience and youth can complement taking risks with new products or advertising campaigns, or branching out into new areas of business.

A combination of the 2 brings perfect balance for business growth, a lively working environment and a powerful team.

I experienced it myself in my last business where my employees age range went from 18 to 60 years old. We were a very successful team that had a lot of fun and laughter together. We supported each other and picked up where one of us couldn´t keep going or lacked the knowledge.

But I also once lived in a country where younger persons never mixed with people outside their age circle. I had a friend once who at age 24 had never held a baby in her arms nor spent any time in the company of anyone over the age of 50, her grandparents had passed away when she was a child.

Having travelled and lived in a few countries, I have encountered different attitudes to age and the aging process. From the very horrible attitude that old people have no place in our world any more to the one in my culture, where old people are respected and valued and treated as teachers of the younger generations, wisdom givers and time givers.

I found that as I was growing up (or ageing) I spent a lot of time with older people, in fact my best friends were always older or much older than me.  I was and I still am, full of respect and admiration for people who are older than me. Respecting people who are older than myself it one of the things that my parents taught me from an early age and I shall be for ever thankful for it.

As I grew up I started to develop a huge amount of patience with elderly people and to have fun with them, in their company. Contrary to what some people believe elderly people haven´t stopped having feelings or emotions or fun. Elderly people haven´t stopped having dreams or goals that they still want to achieve in their lives.

Elderly people also fall in love. Yes, they do! and there are also elderly people who get married at 70!

They also have fun together or with younger people, and they get away with doing things that nobody would believe that they did it because of the whole pre conceived ideas about elderly people.

In one of the places I worked I observed an elderly lady pressing every single button on the elevator!!! She turned around and had a look on my face that I have only seen in children who know they have done mischief! When she saw me, she smiled sweetly at me and I bit my bottom lip as the elevator stopped on every floor!

Living in Germany I have met some incredible older people. I met a couple that at age 77 and 72, ride their bicycles for 16 kilometers every Sunday to go to church and back home. They rarely use their car and choose to ride their bikes no matter where they go.

I also met someone who at the age of 70 received a new honours degree having made the decision a few years before to go back to university and study.

And have you heard of the amazing 83-year-old fashion model who looks incredible? China Machado.

Well, I personally refuse to spend the rest of my life being an age!

What about you? Do you allow age to limit your expectations, dreams and goals in life? It is never too late to pursue those dreams.

Resolve to start today to find a way to get that degree you always wanted, or learn to drive a motorbike or go walk the wall of China. Achieve your ideal weight, choose a completely new style for yourself and transform your life into the life you always wanted.

Make a list of all those things you always wanted to do and have not yet achieved. Do your research into how to achieve it, take your time, plan carefully how you can do it and then … Go for it!!!

Mohammed and Beatriz

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Focusing on creating my own world

Time goes by and the day slips away but we are on the same things.  I tell myself what I want to do the next day and write it down. I ask myself so many questions and I create my own world with my dreams and hopes.

I think we all do that.

But when something goes wrong we get sad and discouraged. Sometimes people hurt you but you don´t talk about it. You hold the pain inside you and struggle to continue forwards to build a better life.

Letting go of the pain helps us to move forward into the future and a better life.

Don´t give up, you know yourself that you are strong.

Don´t let a set back discourage you and stop you in your way to achieving a better life. Focus on your future and on your plans. Focus on making your dreams come true.

You know that you can do a lot of things in your life. You are better than the set backs, you are clever. Don´t let other people push you down. Tell yourself that you are strong and are going to become stronger.

You will reach your goals and make your dreams into reality. Don´t loose sight of your goals, dreams and the life that you want to build.

Your life will be a better life than it is today.

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Switch into Positive

Our brains follow our instructions. Our moods shape our thoughts. Negative thinking produces negative actions.

Focusing on instructing your brain to switch into positive thinking will produce positive outcomes in your life.

For example, if you put the alarm on to get up in the morning to go to work, but before you go to bed you tell yourself that you are tired, that you are in fact exhausted and that you will not manage the next day, then the next morning you will start the day tired and continue in that mode all day long. And probably also in a bad mood!
Negative thinking lowers your energy levels and prepares you for failure.

However, if before you go to bed you tell yourself that you are tired now but after a good night sleep you will successfully complete the next day, then you will have a positive and successful day ahead of you.

Plan for success. Make your mornings easy. Prepare all you can prepare the night before, then go to bed with a clear feeling that the next morning you will have an easy time before facing your day.

Every time you are tempted to think negative then consciously change your thoughts. Be hard on yourself.
If you forget easily what you need to get done the next day, and that is leading you to stress and exhaustion, then invest on a small notebook that you carry around with you. Write lists on it detailing what you need to get done that day and for the next day.
Of course we are in a modern world, you can also make your list on your mobile phone!
But for me personally nothing beats the feeling that I get when I use my little notebook!

Seek positive thoughts and you will be on the road to success!

 

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Taking time out

Focusing, learning, planning, doing and progressing is all part of the processes to achieving goals, but when we only focus on the “serious” staff and don´t take time out to relax and enjoy life we are very much in danger of “burning out”.

This last weekend we took time out to relax and enjoy a perfect late summer´s day.

We went to the circus, ate ice-cream and took time for a relaxed walk. We had a great time, came home feeling totally refreshed and full of energy to move forward!

Because a photo is worth more than a thousand words:

  

Plan into your busy schedule time to relax and to see something different. Once you go back to focusing on your work or life plan, you will be able to concentrate much better and feel rested.

Wishing you happy planning and much fun!!!

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Walking Forwards

 

I walked across many countries in Europe for 3 months to get away from the war and save my life. If there is one thing that I learned about walking forwards in life is that it can be a difficult and painful process which leads to a positive end.

It requires leaving behind not just the negative things in one´s life but sometimes it means having to leave behind things that we like, enjoy, are comfortable with or think we can´t live without.

For me it was a particularly difficult and painful process because it meant leaving behind my loved ones in order to save my life.

But when you want to move forwards in life, in your business, career, home life or love life then you might need to make some difficult choices.

It takes just 9 days to create a bad habit but it takes 21 days to break a bad habit and create a good one.

Just making the decision to walk forwards in life is a huge positive first step. Breaking the bad habits in your life that are stopping you from being successful is already a success. Building new positive habits means we are almost there!

Then we know that we are walking in the right way and on the road to achieving our goals.

Keep a written record of everything you have achieved, not  about what  you dream off but what you have actually done. All of us have dreams but if I hold this dream in my head and never do something about it then I will never do anything in my life. Make a positive habit of recording the steps you take on the road to success.

 

Keep walking forwards, one foot in front of the other!

 

 

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© 2018 Mohammed Al Ali & Beatriz Custodio)

Friday Freedom

After a week full with work and commitments, there is nothing better than to have that feeling of freedom that comes with Friday!

But true freedom does not depend on which day of the week it is. It does not depend on where you live or who you live with.

True freedom comes from having peace of mind and peace in  the heart. True freedom comes from being true to yourself and admiting to the truth inside of you.

A while back we used to work together for someone else, but the people working with us didn´t think it was OK for us to work together. They made our work life very difficult and it spilt over into our private lives. We nearly lost each other. As we drifted away I wanted to tell her everything that was in my heart:

“The first time we kissed I felt the time going really fast, I felt I had the whole world in my hand, I felt so happy, I felt we were the only two people in the world.

I remember when we walked by the river, I looked at you, how you moved, how you talked, I felt I wanted to hide you inside my heart and not let anyone see you, to keep you safe from the whole world. I wanted those moments to never go away.

We have known each other for 3 years and my love for my wife grows more and more everyday.

What words do I need to say to you? my sweet girl or my queen?. Even when you get up in the morning and you leave to go to your job, I feel really scared for you, but I try to hide it inside myself, so that I don´t show my worry for you.  But you are my Queen, the love of my life, my inspiration and my best friend.

I want us to do the things you like and make you happy but time slips away and takes me from you for a little bit because I think so much about how to build a better life. And then I see that we have already a better life because we have each other.”

I still feel the same way about her…

If you work with your husband or wife, keep work life and home life apart. Write a schedule where work times and home life times are clearly defined. Build barriers that nobody is allowed to cross over and above all protect your relationship.

There are many jobs out there and every worker could be easily replaced but you can not replace the person that loves you and cares for you, the one that travels through this life by your side.

Life takes you through many roads and sometimes people try to lead you down a road you should never take.

Value yourself and your relationship.

Don´t let yourself be limited, conditioned and influenced by the expectations of people around you who try to push on you their personal views on your private life.

We have defeated the meath. We have now worked together on writing our books for over a year and are working together on this Blog. We do it without allowing outside influence into our private world. We have peace inside our work life, home life and inside our hearts.

Wishing you Friday Freedom and peace in your heart.

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 © 2018 Mohammed Al Ali & Beatriz Custodio)

Right Thinking = Positive Thinking

 

Hold onto the right thoughts. Think positive! These are the thoughts that lead you towards success.

Maybe you too are starting out again in life, like we did. Once you made the decision to start again you really need to let go of the past.

It is specially important to let go off the situations and choices made in the past which did not lead to success, whether that was in your professional life or in your family life or even in your relationship life.

It is also crucial to let go of the wrong thoughts, these are those thoughts that lead you to doubt your ability to reach success, to reach your goals and hold you back.

If coping with negative comments and the negativity of others is not easy, then it is also crucial to surround yourself with those people that encourage you in your plans for positive change in your life.

Taking time out to think is of vital importance, choose a place where you feel peaceful, where you can focus and breath in fresh air. Push aside every negative thought and write down the positive thoughts that will encourage you in times of doubt.

Starting afresh in life is not easy. Some of us are forced to start again because of the tragedies in our lives, others make that choice because they are not happy or satisfied with their life as it is.

Whatever the reason, the right thoughts are already an achievement! Focus on positive thinking!

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Copyright 2018 Mohammed Al Ali & Beatriz Custodio)

Focusing on Moving Forward

When we are not sure of the next steps, it is easy to fall back to old ways or old situations in life.

Keeping the focus on moving foward and not going back to past situations is the key to building a better life.

When you feel tempted to go back to old situations that ended up in dissaster, just in case this time it might work, consider the outcome in the past! If the outcome was negative, causing you and others around you stress or hurt then stay well away from those things that led you to unhappy times in your life.

Creating a board with pictures that show what you want your life to be like, helps to focus and to keep moving forward.

In fact, in my experience, it is a very relaxing activity to cut off pictures from magazines that depict how I want my life to be. I take time to arrange them and stick them on a board which I then hang up where I can see it every day. I would encourage you to try it as a positive step into building a better life.

Stay focused on where you want to be and how you want your life to be!

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Copyright 2018 Mohammed Al Ali & Beatriz Custodio)

Focusing

To think all the time is good for me. It helps me to plan and to focus on my goals.

But for other people it is maybe not so good.

It isn´t the thinking that is the problem but what you think about. Thinking about the wrong things and in a negative way does not help you to achieve your goals in life. Specially if you are trying to build a new life with a better future for yourself.

Following the right and good thoughts is the way to a better life.

Right thinking helps you make the right choices. We all know what is right and what is wrong. To choose to do what is right is the secret to building a successful life, in ALL areas of your life. Whether that is your work life, your home life, your free time or your relationship with the person you love.

Make the wrong decision and you can loose everything.