There are times in life when everything seems to be going wrong.
Maybe you had today one of those days, weeks or are even having one of those months.
We could sit here talking about how wrong it is all working out or how difficult it all is but that isn’t going to help anyone.
The secret is not to focus on what is going wrong but to focus on finding a solution. Make a list, mental or written, of what is going wrong and the possible reasons why. This might end up being a long list so I choose to write it down.
After writing this list consider if the reason why things are going wrong is your responsibility or not. Sometimes we blame ourselves for what is not our responsibility, however sometimes we start to blame others and everything else for what is really of our own doing.
Deep searching ourselves might not be a favourite activity or a fun activity but one thing is for sure, if we want life to go back to being good again then we need to take a deep look at what is going wrong and the reasons for it.
Once this is done, don´t stay stuck there! Make a new list with possible solutions!!!
Don´t focus on the problems, focus on the solutions. What is the solution to the different situations and whether you are able to put a solution in place, are the most important questions to ask yourself at this point.
If you have the answer to the problem and if you know what you need to do, so you don´t have this problem any more, then do it! As long as your solution to the problem does not cause damage or hurt to any other person.
Always take into consideration the impact that your actions are going to have on those around you. You might think that by doing what seems to you right your problem is solved, but you might end up causing a bigger problem in the long run or causing hurt to somebody near you.
Careful consideration is of the greatest importance at times like this. Rushed actions tend to lead to bigger problems.
In a world where everything happens really fast and confusion reigns, with so many people and so many situations in our lives, we hardly have any time to think, but when everything seems to be going wrong it is the right time to stop and consider every angle of the situation that you are in and find a solution to it.
If it is at work then you might need to communicate with colleagues.
If it is at home then you really need to find a solution and put it into place. Running away is never the solution (just in case that just crossed your mind), the solution is to confront the problem and deal with it in a positive way. Talking with those involved is of major importance! Blocking people out of your life does not solve the problem!
Stay focused on your goals and the better life you are trying to build.
Stay strong, don´t give up!
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