Give it a chance

 

How many times in life have we given up on something because it wasn´t developing or happening fast enough for our expectations? How many times do we stay in a job because it is what we know?

If you have a business it is really important to have patience and to invest time and effort into building it.

If your business is something you are passionate about you are more likely to invest your time into it. If your business is not something that you are really into, it can become a source of stress and bitterness.

It is the same with our jobs. If we are working in a place where we are happy and satisfied with our work then we are more likely to be successful in our careers. However if our job is not really what we want to do, then we start to resent going to work and it becomes a heavy load in our lives. Work life and home life.

I found myself at one point in a job that made me truly unhappy. I had no choice but to stay there in order to achieve a goal I had set myself and obtaining a much-needed qualification. I was so exhausted and broken at the end of the contract that I was ill for an entire month.

I had no choice at the time but to see it through and stay in that job, however I still can not understand the other people who worked there and were completely unhappy, why did they stay? I heard them day in day out complaining about the job, the other people working there and the bosses, but they stayed on and made no effort to find a new job.

One of them had been there for 17 years! Had no reason to stay there but was scared of change and something new. Blamed everyone for stayin in that job, including his ex-girlfriend but made no effort into looking at himself.

Being scared of starting a new job or finding a new work situation can really have serious negative consequences for someone´s health and wellbeing. But most importantly it can stop someone from achieving their full potential.

At the end of that job I was very scared of not finding another job or worse! I was terrified of going into a new job and finding the same frustrating and horrible situations I had lived in the job I had just left. But I made an effort to be positive about my work future.

Guess what? I was wrong. I did find a new job in a place where I fit in and am completely happy.

What did I take with me from my old job? well apart from looking about 10 years older I grew stronger and more assertive. In my new job, as soon as a similar situation to one I had lived in the previous job tried to arise, I dealt with it immediately in a positive way and resolved the issue right away without letting it become harmful to me.

If you find yourself today in a work situation that is driving you down, make a list of what you need to do to find a new job where you can achieve your full potential and be fulfilled and satisfied. If you don´t know in which direction to go then seek help and don´t be scared to start again.

Don´t leave till tomorrow, start today! Give it a chance!

Wishing you every success in your professional life!

Beatriz & Mohammed

All content and photos are the property of Mohammed Al Ali and Beatriz Custodio

© 2018 Beatriz Custodio & Mohammed Al Ali

Friday Freedom

After a week full with work and commitments, there is nothing better than to have that feeling of freedom that comes with Friday!

But true freedom does not depend on which day of the week it is. It does not depend on where you live or who you live with.

True freedom comes from having peace of mind and peace in  the heart. True freedom comes from being true to yourself and admiting to the truth inside of you.

A while back we used to work together for someone else, but the people working with us didn´t think it was OK for us to work together. They made our work life very difficult and it spilt over into our private lives. We nearly lost each other. As we drifted away I wanted to tell her everything that was in my heart:

“The first time we kissed I felt the time going really fast, I felt I had the whole world in my hand, I felt so happy, I felt we were the only two people in the world.

I remember when we walked by the river, I looked at you, how you moved, how you talked, I felt I wanted to hide you inside my heart and not let anyone see you, to keep you safe from the whole world. I wanted those moments to never go away.

We have known each other for 3 years and my love for my wife grows more and more everyday.

What words do I need to say to you? my sweet girl or my queen?. Even when you get up in the morning and you leave to go to your job, I feel really scared for you, but I try to hide it inside myself, so that I don´t show my worry for you.  But you are my Queen, the love of my life, my inspiration and my best friend.

I want us to do the things you like and make you happy but time slips away and takes me from you for a little bit because I think so much about how to build a better life. And then I see that we have already a better life because we have each other.”

I still feel the same way about her…

If you work with your husband or wife, keep work life and home life apart. Write a schedule where work times and home life times are clearly defined. Build barriers that nobody is allowed to cross over and above all protect your relationship.

There are many jobs out there and every worker could be easily replaced but you can not replace the person that loves you and cares for you, the one that travels through this life by your side.

Life takes you through many roads and sometimes people try to lead you down a road you should never take.

Value yourself and your relationship.

Don´t let yourself be limited, conditioned and influenced by the expectations of people around you who try to push on you their personal views on your private life.

We have defeated the meath. We have now worked together on writing our books for over a year and are working together on this Blog. We do it without allowing outside influence into our private world. We have peace inside our work life, home life and inside our hearts.

Wishing you Friday Freedom and peace in your heart.

(All photos and content are the property of Beatriz Custodio & Mohammed Al Ali.

 © 2018 Mohammed Al Ali & Beatriz Custodio)